Your opinion… that is.
I found myself in a conversation updating someone I confided in about my current emotional state of being. It seems I watched the man I love walk out my door to get on a plane and fly some 20212 miles away. I handed him a six page letter before he walked out the door. He left because I stopped seeing him months ago. But I didn’t stop seeing him because I don’t love him. I stopped seeing him for the right reasons. I’m leaving those details out for the time being.
The opinion I would like has more to do with the right now part… in particular, Facebook stalking. I haven’t heard from him since he got home. He texted to say he made it safe. I texted back, “I’ve had a lot of time to think today. I hope you find what you are looking for. But if you don’t, if something is still missing, I hope we can talk and find some common ground.” He said back, “I read your letter and I feel like I should write back, but not today.” I haven’t heard from him since.
I guess I’m dragging this out, but before I could get your opinion, you needed background information. My confidant couldn’t believe I haven’t spoken to him. She says, “What’s he doing? Haven’t you stalked his Facebook.”
No. Actually, we aren’t even Facebook friends. I don’t use Facebook very much and I’m fairly certain I have never announced a relationship or “boyfriend” through there. Quite honestly, I feel I don’t need to see his Facebook. He is at home, searching out whatever it is he is looking for. I don’t see how looking at what is doing on the internet would be good for me… or him for that matter. Either he finds what he needs and stays there, or he doesn’t and he comes back to me. Looking at pictures and status updates of all the things he does while he’s there isn’t going to make me feel better.
On another note, she says I need a connection. I need to be connected to him, to know what he is doing, and to be able to show him I still want him. I’m not really sure what Facebook has to do with that. Wouldn’t the connection be more real if I texted him?
Either way… I value opinions on two matters:
What say you regarding Facebook connections as supplements for thousands of miles between love… and “Facebook Stalking.”
Should I be giving him all the space he needs? Or should I be contacting him? Should I fight harder? And if you say I need to fight for him… tell me how. I wouldn’t even know what to do.